Monday, 18 November 2013

The hen do | Ladies who limo!

He put a ring on it!
 I feel a little bit sad writing this as my hen do last weekend was absolutely perfect and I can't believe it's all over so soon! It really hit me that the wedding is only two months away and after almost two years of planning it's all about to happen! I've already read up on post-wedding blues to prepare myself for the wedding planning hole in my life I'm bound to feel, haha, I've got lots of goals to crack on with come February to see me through! 

My incredible Maid of Honour (or, rather, Maid of M***** F****** Honour) Alice organised the hen do and it was everything I could have wanted and more. She knows me so well as every aspect of the day and night was perfect! It felt so 'me' and I loved celebrating and having fun with such a wonderful group of girlfriends. I didn't have a clue what we would be doing, everything was kept a surprise and it was so much fun discovering things as they happened on the day! 

Festivities kicked off at 11.30am when Alice and I had our hair and makeup done, and people started arriving at Alice's at around 2pm. She had set up a gorgeous afternoon tea in her dining room complete with homemade sausage rolls, rocky road pieces and heart shapes scones with jam and cream, as well as lots of adorable decorations. We had Prosecco and pomegranate to drink, complete with willy straws of course! Alice also sourced a box of my all time favourite snack, Cheeselets, and there were plenty of sweets on offer too. 

So many homemade sweet treats! All delicious of course! And check out the party bags on the table to the right, so cute!
Ever so slightly embarrassing photos taken by Alice when Chris and I got engaged!
Cute love confetti
After general mingling and picture taking Alice started the party games. I don't think I've laughed so much before in my life! My cheeks actually ached from laughing, it was all so much fun. We played pass the parcel with a twist; for those who didn't find a present hidden in their layer of the parcel, a cheeky shot of cherry liqueur was required. We played 'dress the bride' which was hilarious! Myself and Marie-Claire were the brides and we each had a team of 'designers' making our perfect wedding dresses for us. I was impressed with the attention to detail that both teams showed and it did get quite competitive! Unfortunately my team didn't win, meaning even more shots for us... 

Me and my amazing MOMFH Alice!
Bargain Primark rocks at the ready ;)
Marie-Claire, me, Michaela
Marie-Claire, me, Victoria
My tiara and sash! And my last minute dress and shoes!
Shot time 
Marie-Claire and her sweetheart neckline, traditional ballgown wedding dress!
It was all too much! Getting emotional in my beautiful mermaid fit gown :p
Bride wars!
Ripping off the dress after throwing our bouquets!
We played a game of 'inappropriate' charades... Needless to say a lot of laughter was had by all! 

After the games we made our way outside to have a toast with sparklers which was a really nice touch. Alice gave a little speech and then I blubbed my way through a few words, trying hard to compose myself but losing it completely when thanking Alice for everything she's done as Maid of Honour. She really has been incredible and I couldn't be without her *starts blubbing again*

Raising a toast with sparklers
Trying hard not to cry!
The BIG surprise was the limo that pulled up outside after the toast. I've always wanted to ride in a limo! Haha, we became the definition of tacky hens but in our defense we weren't too rowdy! We did crack open a bottle of bubbly and sing along to Beyonce's Single Ladies on repeat, but you've got to love a cliche once in a while! And it really was awesome, the limo was amazing inside and it felt pretty surreal driving through the neighbourhood in a Hummer limo! We were dropped off at a gorgeous American restaurant in Shoreditch and all of us pretty much stuffed our faces with the best burgers EVER. We played a few rounds of 'never have I ever' while waiting for our food, always an interesting game to play..!

Clearly VERY excited about the limo
With my GPs
Well, a hen do wouldn't be complete without a willy straw!
After dinner we headed to a cocktail bar where we had a few cocktails and a dance. So many of the songs reminded us of being in school, so it was a rather nostalgic blast from the past! Admittedly I usually hate dancing in public but I made an exception as I was wearing a tiara and sash and felt special! Haha, so I joined in and discovered that once you start you sort of don't want to stop... Until your feet start to hurt, stupid shoes! I loved every minute of it, it was such an awesome night. 

Once home Alice came to mine for a cuppa and a chit chat, a fitting end to an awesome day. I refused to take off my tiara until I climbed into bed and immediately put it on again as soon as I woke up the day after, along with my sash! Alice came over in the afternoon and we ordered a well deserved and much needed Domino's for lunch, and a marathon of Say Yes to the Dress and Brides of Beverly Hills topped off the weekend nicely! 

I honestly couldn't have asked for a better hen do, it was absolutely amazing and perfect, and I'm so happy that I got to celebrate with my wonderful friends. Everyone was so enthusiastic and game for a laugh, it was so much fun and hopefully you can tell from the photos that we had a great time! With only two months to go until the wedding a weekend off from wedding planning was just what I needed to unwind and let my hair down.  

Thank you so much Alice! #MOMFH 

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Sunday, 17 November 2013

Sunday Gratitude | November 17th 2013



Happy Sunday everyone! Once again I've fallen behind on the blogging schedule (oops!) BUT this week has been full of nice things so I'm trying not to be too annoyed at myself. Here's this week's Sunday Gratitude list!

I'm grateful for popcorn and chocolate

Chris has had the week off work so we've had lots of time to hang out and plan wedding things, as well as laze around! We started a new movie night routine this week involving blankets, DVDs and a big bowl of popcorn mixed with all kinds of chocolate treats. Not the healthiest snack in the world but soooo tasty and as I'm such a homebody it's been really nice snuggling up inside from the cold with snacks galore and movies on tap. 

I'm grateful for celebrations with friends

Last night was my friend Michaela's engagement party, which was so much fun! Michaela and her fiance Josh are such nice people and make a perfect couple, I'm so happy for them! Lots of dancing, eating amazing food and catching up with friends. I'm so excited for their wedding! Last weekend was also full of celebration as it was my hen do! I'm planning a post all about it, aaah it was the BEST day and I had such a great time celebrating with my friends and getting excited about the wedding. Only two months to go!!

I'm grateful for a successful spending ban

What could be fun about a spending ban? Especially a ban borne from necessity rather than choice... For the past three or four weeks all my pennies have gone on bills and bills only, but I actually haven't missed buying things, which is quite a big deal for me as I often use shopping as a way to hide from anxiety. In the summer I wasn't able to go inside a Superdrug without buying a heap of makeup, whereas now I can browse and not feel such a tug towards anything. I had a little bit of money to buy some hen do bits and bobs but only felt the need to buy one lipstick and one lipstick only! I tested a million makeup items but just didn't feel an urge to purchase anything, and it felt amazing! I'm sure a time will come when I want to spend spend spend instead of dealing with anxious moments but at the moment I feel like I'm doing really well at working through CBT exercises instead of distracting myself in unhealthy ways. 

I'm grateful for November walks

On Friday Chris and I went for an afternoon walk (got to burn off all that popcorn and chocolate!) and the weather was absolutely gorgeous. Clear blue skies and a crisp Autumn chill in the air. I love this time of year when the weather is clear and everything feels so fresh. Getting outside and stepping away from my laptop always makes me feel a hundred times more motivated and mentally refreshed, and it gave me a nice early weekend boost. 

I'm grateful for hot bubble baths 

There's surely nothing better than soaking in a bath full of bubbles after a long day, especially when your feet are killing you due to evil ill fitting Primark shoes! I much prefer baths to showers as you can bring in a stack of magazines or a good book, a nice cup of tea and lots of pampering products. I've been using a brilliant Elemis body scrub perfect for perking up winter skin, and a scrummy smelling Dove bath soak. Bliss!

Until next weekend!

Baci e abbracci, 

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Friday, 8 November 2013

Love, Health, Purpose


I am a stress head. I find molehills and turn them into mountains. I pick, pick, pick at teeny tiny issues until they're suddenly 'The Most Pressing Issues Ever' and I'm tearing my hair out with worry. I am the queen of catastrophe! However, I also have moments of recognition, of realising that I'm actually blessed to be able to worry about such small things when there are far worse circumstances I could find myself in. My life is filled with good things. 

I'm healthy, my family and friends are healthy, and I am loved. I do not want for food or shelter, I am fortunate to have an education and I have gifts and talents I am fortunate enough to be able to cultivate and share. I realised just how blessed my life has been so far when my soon to be father in law was rushed to hospital a month or so ago. My fiance and I caught the bus into central London at 12.30am that night, walking part of the way and saying silent prayers. When someone you love is sick, every other worry pales in comparison. Material concerns suddenly seem wickedly indulgent. Love and health become everything. 

My father in law has made a full recovery, thankfully, and the relief felt when his good diagnosis was given was incredible. I do believe love is tangible; the energy in that small hospital room was strong, and although the result of difficult circumstances I'm sure we all gained a lot from spending so much time together that week. Before we knew what was wrong I spent some time meditating with my tarot cards, wondering if I should do a reading and if I was able to accept whatever might show if I did. I felt a huge responsibility all of a sudden; reading tarot is no joke! When I read for someone I'm taking their situation and holding it gently in my hands while being trusted with the task of aiding clarity and understanding. Tarot has the amazing ability to heal, and to read tarot for someone is always a healing experience in some way. 

I did go ahead and conduct a reading and it was the right decision as everything suggested by the cards unfolded and reaffirmed to me that I'm on the right path. The cards taught me in that moment to trust in myself, to share love with my loved ones and to appreciate the incredible blessings I have in my life. I've felt quite low and despondent recently, yet when I think back to my father in law being in hospital all I wanted for was good health and love. How easy it is to forget that so quickly! I have three incredible gifts in my life right now: love, health and a recognition of my purpose. With health, love and purpose anyone can achieve wonderful, spectacular things. Incredible things! 

I urge you to take a moment to stop, look around and count your blessings. It isn't always easy, by any means. Hello, I'm the queen of the catastrophe! Force yourself to do it. Be strict with yourself, discipline yourself, write a list if you have to. Commit pen to paper and commit to remembering your blessings. I promise your mood will begin to lift and your strength will grow. Great things will happen! Not least a deeply felt sense of gratitude for the good things in life, both big and small. 

Baci e abbracci, 


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